The Temptation of Bitterness in Grief
“See to it… that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many.” (Hebrews 12:15)
When sorrow pierces the soul, the enemy whispers: *“God has failed you.”* This is the seed of bitterness. Grief itself is not sin—Jesus wept at Lazarus’ tomb (John 11:35)—but grief left unchecked hardens into resentment, choking faith and hope.
Naomi cried, *“Call me Mara, for the Almighty has made my life bitter”* (Ruth 1:20), yet God was weaving redemption through Ruth. Job wrestled with despair, but in the end confessed, *“Now my eyes have seen You”* (Job 42:5). At Calvary, Jesus chose forgiveness over bitterness, praying, *“Father, forgive them”* (Luke 23:34).
Bitterness looks down at the grave; faith looks up to the Resurrection (John 11:25). Bitterness closes the heart; prayer opens it to the Spirit’s comfort (Romans 8:26). Bitterness turns inward; love turns outward.
Beloved, grief will come—but bitterness does not have to stay. Surrender your pain to Christ. The One acquainted with sorrow (Isaiah 53:3) will turn mourning into dancing (Psalm 30:11).
Your brother in Christ,
Apostle Ashok Martin